Wiser?

 

Okay bear with me as I go all lovey-dovey here for a minute.

I love him.

But most importantly I am really starting to love us. We have worked hard...really hard over the years to get to the place were we are now in our relationship. That place happens to be where disagreements and frustrations are resolved quickly and in a fairly kind manner...as opposed to the days-long destructive fights we used to have. We no longer try to out-stubborn one another for the sake of "winning". We are forthright about wanting to end the consternation and get back to everything being okay. We actually listen and admit what we do wrong.

In all honesty most of "our" problem was me...I'm pretty vicious when I'm hurt and angry. I always knew from a practical standpoint that the issues should just be resolved, but I'd always let emotions take over and turn most simple disagreements into utter disasters.

For some reason in the last year everything has started to shift and we both have found new commitment to making this an 100% happy relationship instead of 90% good 10% awful. Now when we argue I have a completely different perspective and I can see that Sean does too...I don't know if it's a symptom of a little growing up...maybe we're wiser or more patient...but whatever it is it's working. 

So I just wanted to celebrate a little "us" success tonight...surely we'll have more issues in the future but we can stay on this same path we'll be just fine....and I feel so lucky that I can say that.

Comments

[tania]

:o)

[MNScrapbookmom - Kyra]

My husband and I had a similar conversation recently as well. We have been married for 12 years, and although you would figure that we should at least be able to settle disagreements by this point. I am gratefult that we too have taken steps to acknowledge fault, and to properly admit to wrong doing if it happens to be the issue so very quickly these days. The apologies fly out of our mouths and I can't imagine it being any better for us right now. :) Maybe it's the season of Thankfulness, maybe it's just us growing older together that has caused this connection. For whatever reason... I am so glad to be where we are today. Great post Nora. :) ¥

[Dana G]

Amen sister! I feel lucky to have found what you are talking about as well and it really counts for the overall happiness in the house doesn't it? Good for you both :)

[shelley e]

good for you! :)

[tara pollard pakosta]

In the beginning of our dating years, 12 years ago, my dh and i
were both stubborn and fighting like that (mostly me, it's a girl thing).
and then we got to that point once we got married and decided it's NOT worth it
to throw away hours of our days that can add up to years of being unhappy!
it's so worth it to just learn quickly to say i am sorry, and get over it real quick!
good for you both!
tara

[Laura Solomon]

You totally defined my favorite saying, "It is more important to be happy than be right" Good work Griffins!

[Dawn Van Brunt]

awesome job guys! making a marraige 'work' is a job in itself! Awesome. I love the shot of you by Mt. Rushmore!